Relationships

What to discuss before starting marriage therapy

A practical starting point for couples considering a first appointment.

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My Therapy journal · General information, not individual clinical advice.

Name what brought you here

You may have a specific disagreement or a more general sense of distance. Each partner can think about what prompted the enquiry and what they hope to understand. Your reasons do not have to be identical for you to ask about a first meeting.

Ask how the work is structured

Before booking, discuss session length, fees, confidentiality, and whether both partners should attend the initial session. Ask the practitioner how they approach recurring conflict and how the goals of the sessions are agreed. You are also welcome to ask about their qualifications and experience relevant to your concerns.

Leave space for different outcomes

A couple may be working towards connection, understanding a change, or considering their future. A first session does not commit you to a fixed conclusion. It offers a chance to discuss your circumstances and whether the proposed way of working is appropriate. If there is coercion, fear, or a safety concern, speak privately with the practitioner before joint work.

Bring your own questions.

The right starting point is personal to you. You can ask about the practitioner’s experience, approach, and availability before arranging an appointment.

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